Ten Things To Avoid During Disputes With Loved Ones: Part 1
It’s quite easy to hurt a person especially a loved one with a word or an action during a fight.
The resentment can linger for much longer after the fight is over thereby, ruining the once loving relationship.
Below are ten actions to totally avoid when having a misunderstanding or fight with a loved one:
1.) Never resort to name-calling
Name-calling or zeroing in one of your partner’s insecurities or vulnerabilities during an argument is a low blow. You may be angry, hurt or frustrated in the moment, but that’s no excuse for this type of behavior.
If you’ve been with your partner long enough, you probably have a sense of certain things about them that would be especially hurtful if you brought them up during an argument.
The problem with these types of jabs is that they can be particularly difficult to move past.
Try focusing on the issue at hand rather than making personal attacks and saying something about your partner that you will probably later regret.
Arguments can be tough to get through, but you still want to demonstrate mutual respect towards each other.
2.) Never fight in public
If you allow yourself and your partner to fight in a public place then, most likely, you do not respect each other or the surrounding people.
Do not take skeletons out of your closet in public. It’s way better to talk about your issues at home.
3.) Do not go to bed separately
If it wasn’t a tradition to go to bed together, ensure on the day of any fight you consciously make the attempt to actually retire to bed together as this will ease the atmosphere and quickly resolve the conflict.
You may end up lying back to back at first, but in the morning you will wake up in each other’s arms without the tiniest hint of last night’s fight.
Note: By going to sleep separately, you show that you are not ready to make up.
4.) Never walk away mid-argument
When a person completely shuts down or disengages in the middle of an argument without warning, it makes your partner feel as though you’ve pulled the rug out from under them.
The conflict remains unresolved and it leaves your partner alone, confused and even more frustrated.
Simply leaving the house during a fight will only show how uncomfortable you feel staying under the same roof as your partner.
Slamming the doors, running into the darkness, leaving the conflict unresolved, all these will make your partner think twice about your level of maturity.
It’s way better to wait until you both calm down, and then you can discuss everything as adults.
However, if you’re feeling overwhelmed and need a timeout, that’s fine. But it’s better to voice that to your partner than to just bail.
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