Reasons for remaining unmarried: Part 2
You are approaching 38 and you are such a beautiful, educated and well connected person, but still single. You could belong to the high class singles called ‘the senior girls’ and your single status contradicts your social standing.
May be in your club, business and social activities, a lot of men admire and respect you. But in spite of these admirations, none of them still has the courage to propose marriage to you or even attempt to approach you for such purpose. What fears them could be as a result of your success. When they look at you from the distance, they see a complete super woman. Your achievement and status intimidate them and it has distorted the ability to make you easily available for marriage.
The things that make you a super woman could be, your money or your connections. So why do you have such things, such as money, good looks, influence, yet it still remains difficult to get a husband.
Out of frustration, you may be saying, “after all it is not every woman that must marry and that there is no big deal about getting married”. But deep down you, you are still desperately in need of a husband. It is still a big deal for most women to marry. So it is a natural thing that you will always need a husband. Therefore do something about your super status, as it may continue to affect you.
There are some singles that could be grouped as the sophisticated ones. You are above 39, you could be a popular star actress, musician or a celebrity and you earn a lot of money. You own the best things of life, including beautiful cars, beautiful houses and others. You shop at the best shopping plazas in town. You belong to the expensive type of fitness club. These are some of the qualifications of a sophisticated single. You have really allowed your lifestyle, earning power and standard of living to appreciate to a level where you have priced yourself out of the market.
Your status is making it difficult for men to approach you, not to talk of maintaining you. You scare men away because of your profile and intimidating influence. You have arrived at that level whereby you do not need a man’s money to live a life of your choice. In fact, as far as you are concerned you can do without their money. You may not be saying such things out, but your lifestyle says it. You may have tried to get a husband but no way. Men could be scared of you, not only for your success, but because of the fear that you may not respect or obey your husband because of your status. These men may be wrong in their thinking, but that is actually the impression of you. This is the kind of thing success can do to a woman. It is really full of contradictions. If for instance, a man is successful, he can easily get a wife. If he is not successful, women avoid him. But if a woman is successful, it may be difficult for her to get a husband. If she is not successful, men avoid her, as they would always look at her as a liability. This is always regarded as a double problem. The thing is that for fear of the unknown, nobody wants to suffer in marriage. But how real is this fear?
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All these depend on one’s imagination and on which end of the market the person is operating from, whether man or woman, successful or not. A woman should not because of getting husband, avoid being successful in life. Women should succeed in all their endeavors, including job, business and others. They only need to manage their success with humility and a modest lifestyle. They should try to be moderate in all they do.