How parents are expected to handle their children’s marital relationships

The following as marshaled out in the article below are geared towards helping to maintain peace between parents and their married children.

1. Do not for any reason encourage your son and his wife to stay under same roof with you. 

Suggest to them to rent a house somewhere as it is necessary for them to find a separate home.

This is because the more the distance between you and your children’s families, the better is the relationship with your in laws. 

2. Treat your son’s wife as his wife, not as your own daughter, maybe just treat her as a friend. 

Your son would always be your Junior  but, if you think that his wife is of the same rank and if you ever scolded her, she would  remember it for life.

In real life, only her own mother and not you will be viewed as a person qualified to scold or correct her. 

3. Whatever habits or characters your son’s wife has is not your problem at all, it is your  son’s problem. 

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It isn’t  your problem as he is an adult already.

4. Even when living together, make each others businesses clear, don’t do their laundry, don’t cook for them and don’t baby sit their children. 

Unless, of course, there is a special request by your son’s wife and you feel that you’re capable and don’t expect anything in return.

Most importantly, you shouldn’t worry about your son’s family problems. 

Let them settle themselves.

5. Pretend to be blind and deaf when your son and his wife are quarrelling.  

It’s normal that the young couple do not like their parents to be involved in the dispute between husband and wife. 

6. Your grandchildren totally belong to your son and his wife. 

However they want to raise their children,  it is up to them.  

The credit or blame would be on them.

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7. Your son’s wife need not necessarily  respect and serve you. It is the son’s duty.  

You should have taught your son to be a better person so that you and your son’s wife relationship could be better. 

8. Do more planning for your own retirement, don’t rely on your children to take care of  your retirement. 

You had already walked through most of your journey in life, there are still a lot of new things to learn through out the journey.

9. It is your own interest that you enjoy your retirement years.  

Better if you could utilise & enjoy everything that you had saved before you die.  

Don’t let your wealth become worthless to you.

10. Grandchildren don’t belong to your family, they’re their parents precious gift.

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PLEASE NOTE:

This message is not only for you. Try to share it with your friends, parents, in-laws, uncles, aunties, husband or wife to help them find peace and progress in life as it is based on life long experience.

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